Unpacking Mother-Daughter Relationships ft. Hilary Truong
Join me in talking with Hilary Truong, founder of Hilary Mae and Co! We have an AMAZING conversation about the mother-daughter relationship. How and why this critical relationship can get so sticky, what we can do about it, and how society-at-large shapes the mother-daughter relationship. All women everywhere - listen 👏🏼 to 👏🏼 this 👏🏼 episode 👏🏼 For the love of all things holy. Trust me 💜
MEET HILARY TRUONG ~
Hilary Truong is a mother-daughter relationship expert and former therapist for teen girls and a leading voice on keeping mothers and daughters in relationship through the teen years. She is on a mission to rewrite the narrative for mothers and teen daughters and shares her passion by speaking at schools and associations for girls and women, coaching mothers of girls and hosting immersive travel experiences for mothers and daughters.
CONNECT WITH HILARY TRUONG
On the web: www.hilarymae.com
On Instagram: @hilarymaeco
On LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/hilarymaeco
On the Facebooks: https://www.facebook.com/hilarymaeco
🫧 CLICK HERE TO CHECK OUT HILARY’S FREE WORKSHOP SERIES 🫧
FAVORITE MOMENTS FROM THIS EPISODE ~
some of my favorite lines of conversation that came up in this episode:
The incredible impact of watching our mothers model behavior patterns
Breaking the ‘am I expecting too much of men?’ thought pattern
Slowly breaking old patterns across generations
Letting go of solving other peoples’ problems so we can solve the big problems that give our own lives meaning
Mothers meeting their own emotional needs vs. projecting them onto the daughter
Embracing the natural course of the mother-daughter relationship
Honoring the unfulfilled dreams of our grandmothers 💜
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS SHOW ~
THE WORKS OF ROSJKE HASSELDINE
DOWN GIRL BY KATE MANN
DETAILED EPISODE BREAKDOWN ~
0:00 - 10:00 ish:
Meet Hilary Truong! and a quick overview of today’s episode 💜
When Hilary first realized the mother-daughter relationship needed more investigation…
Why are the teen years so critical? What’s so unique about them?
The importance of moms feeling supported so they can be truly supportive for their daughters
Moms and daughters seeing each other through softer eyes 🌈
10 - 20:00 ish:
The ‘female experience’ as a bond between mother + daughter
How living inside the patriarchy sets this relationship up for conflict
The culture of ‘female service’ and expectations placed on women to serve and give
Women’s right to express our needs and ask for what we need
The incredible impact of watching our mothers model behavior patterns
Men learning to take on their share of the emotional labor
The ‘am I expecting too much of men?’ thinking pattern
20 - 30:00 ish:
Reflecting on the growing appreciation of emotional labor with each generation
Changing the patterns we pass on through family
Slowly breaking old patterns across generations
Learning about our mother lines 💜 Our mothers, grandmothers and great grandmothers
The sacrifice that’s made by our female predecessors
Letting go of solving other peoples’ problems so we can solve the big problems that give our own lives meaning
What happens when a mom’s emotional needs aren’t met
30 - 40:00 ish:
Mothers meeting their own emotional needs vs. projecting them onto the daughter
Letting go of the expectations that mothers + daughters should be best friends
Embracing the natural course of the mother-daughter relationship
The importance of finding satisfaction outside of being a mother
Wrangling with cultural echos from the 50’s about what it means to be a woman
Human Giver Syndrome
Honoring the unfulfilled dreams of our grandmothers 💜
40 - 50:00 ish:
Hilary’s personal definition of what it means to her to be a mother
Letting motherhood be messy, real and honest
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Lots of love,
Caroline
